Graham and Dylys' news in 2024

A sad loss

Graham’s sister Wendy had an adventure with cancer last year, with operations to remove much of it, and much recuperation to follow. We visited her in her home in Tamworth on New Year’s Day – she was able to converse with us, but she warned us that she might fall asleep.

Then she went downhill, and back into hospital in the West Midlands. We joined a sizeable family gathering, visiting her in hospital at the beginning of February, and we took it in turns to spend time with her in her room in the hospital. She was conscious but not responsive. A few days later, she died. We met with family again for the funeral at the end of February.

It has been a sad and difficult time especially for Wendy’s father (Graham’s father), her daughter Amy who lives in Cornwall with her own daughter Rosie, and Wendy’s son Jason who has been based out in the far east for the past few years.

Home

It has felt like we were still settling into the new home (we moved in April last year) – there was so much to get sorted out. Unexpected and unplanned, the washing machine broke down in January. We quickly established that it would be at substantial cost just to get a call-out to inspect it, and we made the decision to replace it instead. Of course it was quite urgent to get it sorted – the dirty laundry just keeps piling up. Dylys was not well at the time, so Graham went on his own to check out the offerings at Curry’s – he agreed a purchase and arranged for delivery, which went to plan.

Last year, we were going to get a whole new kitchen fitted, but the supplier postponed the arrangement on the day the installation was due to be fitted, and the next we knew was that the supplier had gone out of business. We had already paid for three quarters of the cost of the new kitchen. We duly put in our claim to the administrators for the failed business, and we are still waiting to hear more on that.

We still needed a new kitchen, and we had decided to get the job done in the summer months this year, rather than having to manage several days without the kitchen facilities in the winter. We went to a new sup-plier, agreed on the cupboards and appliances that we wanted, and we took out a new credit card, having learned that this is the way we should have paid for the kitchen last year – it offers protection in the event of businesses going bankrupt. The kitchen installation went ahead smoothly in June. Subsequent to this, our home has been decorated to our satisfaction.

Fun for Graham

Graham broke a molar tooth in February. It felt like a case of déjà vu: he did something similar a few years ago. He made a dental appointment, and had the tooth cleaned down and filled. However, the tooth broke again a couple of months later – the dentist identified that it was the earlier filling which had come out. It could be replaced, but the dentist recommended a crown as a more permanent repair. So Graham now has a crown: he has no sense of royalty, you will not see it unless you look in his mouth.

Then in August, Graham was checking his body and found a small lump where there should not be a lump. He made a GP appointment and was advised that, whilst the lump appeared to be benign, he should get an ultrasound scan at the hospital as a double-check. The hospital appointment confirmed that there was no real problem, for which he is very grateful.

Holidays

We managed two holidays this year. We went to Kilkhampton in Cornwall, just north of Bude, in May. We are motivated to go to Cornwall, as this allows us to meet up with Graham’s Dad and Val who live in Wadebridge, and with niece Amy and her family in Saltash. We also enjoy the coastal walks in Cornwall.

Then we went to Porthmadog at the end of September, early October. This is a good base for coast walks or hill walks. We had a sobering experience when we chose a walk from an Ordnance Survey book which took us on a route around Rhinog Fawr. It felt really remote – we had to drive along several miles of single track road before reaching a farm with a car park and camp site where the walk started. We got two thirds of the way around, and then could not match up the route instructions with the map. We tried following the instructions, the map showed that we were off-route, we tried cutting across rough heathery, boggy ground to get to the route on the map, but this was clearly leading us in the wrong direction. The after-noon was getting late. We had no mobile signal. We agreed that we would retrace to a farm house and ask if we could call for a taxi. To cut a long story short, the taxi businesses let us down, and a man from one of the farm houses offered to drive us back to where we had parked the car – an even longer route through mainly single-track roads. So we did get back, thanks to a very kind gentleman, but we want to be much more cautious about selecting our walks in the future. During all this Dylys managed to lose her phone: she has replaced the phone and kept her number. Will anybody ever find the old phone? We do not know.

Family events

Our nephew Craig (on Dylys’ side of the family) celebrated his 40th birthday in February. We joined the family gathering for the party at a Chinese restaurant in Newcastle-under-Lyme. It was good to meet up with family; and Dylys got a surprise as she spotted somebody she works with when doing her voluntary work at the hospital in Macclesfield.

Graham’s mother died two years ago, and following the funeral there was a small family ashes-scattering event at Bradgate Country Park just outside Leicester – a place Mum frequently visited, being close to where she used to live. We had not been back to Bradgate since then, but decided that it would be ap-propriate on the day after what would have been her birthday this year. We consider it a family event, although we did not meet with other family on this occasion. We made the trip over toward Leicester and spent the day at the park, walking around the area where the ashes had been scattered, and to see her memorial “leaf” (pictured). Bradgate is a lovely place to spend the day – lots of wide open space. One of the landmarks there is Lady Jane Grey’s house, and it is the first time I have been aware of the grounds of the house being open to the public. We were able to look around the chapel on the site, which has been turned into a museum.

We had a further gathering with family on Dylys’ side at Tittesworth Reservoir at the end of August. This is relatively close to where we live, in comparison to the journeys we have to make for most family events. We had a good walk around parts of the reservoir, and relaxed in the park areas.

In November we were delighted to take part in the engagement party for Matt (nephew on Graham's side) and Sarah, down in the West Midlands.

Church

Dylys helps out at Bethel Bunnies – the weekly parent and toddler group is feeling more established now. The Sunday School aims to do one Sunday a month outdoors – and the arrangement goes ahead even in wet weather unless it is very bad. It is Dylys who helps out on the outdoor-designated weeks.

Graham was called upon to preach on three occasions during the year, all in the latter few months. Our Pas-tor had a hip operation at the end of September, for which he needed recuperation and has not been able to get out to the church through the autumn, and so had to arrange cover over a number of weeks. 

Graham says he does not preach, he gives a presentation. It takes time to prepare a message with slides, and he more or less reads his notes like a script. The messages seem to be well-enough received.

Graham and Dylys' news in 2023

Home

It has been all-change this year, and we thought we should get our Christmas newsletter out early because we have changed our home address, and we no longer have a landline number (all contact details are above).

There were several reasons influencing our decision to move: we wanted a smaller, simpler home with less to look after. We wanted to set up Power of Attorney for each of us, which should be less of a burden with a simpler property. Of course Graham is thinking of retirement in the years ahead (Dylys retired from full time work 8 years ago).

We viewed an apartment that we liked in December last year – quite roomy, ground floor, own front door (no communal door), and a garage. We put our house on the market, we had lots of viewings and offers (although all below the asking price); eventually we agreed on an offer, the apartment was still available, we put the offer in, and everything was in motion.

However, Dylys became increasingly unhappy about the apartment. We viewed another, put an offer in, and as advised by the estate agent, we pulled out of buying the first apartment (we were immediately informed that the sellers had accepted another offer). Then we ran into problems: there was competition for the second apartment, and we found ourselves with the sale of our house progressing, but no home to move to!

We viewed a third apartment and put an offer in, which was accepted. However, the searches revealed a Land Registry error and our solicitor advised that we should ask for it to be resolved before completing the purchase. The people buying our house were understandably anxious to complete their purchase, and asked us to consider temporary accommodation. As the owners of the third apartment were renting it out to a tenant, we asked if we could be the tenants whilst the Land Registry issue was resolved, and so we moved in on 26 April, meaning that our first full day at our new address was our 27^th wedding anniversary – on 27^th April. But there were complications with the Land Registry, and we have been renting the property for far longer than we anticipated. We do get some compensation from the capital for the house, which is in savings and earning interest, but we really do want to complete the purchase.

We never anticipated that the Land Registry issue would be such a long and drawn out affair. The apartment was in need of a variety of work, with which we proceeded, thinking that we would very soon own the property – with hindsight we should have been more careful about arranging this work, as in more recent months we have sometimes wondered if we were going to have to abandon the purchase and move on. But we could not bring our fitted bedroom furniture from the house, and there was no furniture in the apartment, so our first job was to decide upon suitable bedroom furniture, and order it and get it fitted – until that time, we were living out of suitcases and boxes! That job went well – the picture above shows us in our new bedroom.

We ordered a new bathroom and then a new kitchen from a local supplier in Macclesfield (the bathroom in the apartment was simply not fit for purpose). The bathroom was duly fitted. Then, on the day the kitchen installation was due to start, we had a phone call to advise that the quality of the supplied units was not satisfactory and the installation was being postponed. A while later, we tried chasing up for a new date, could not get in touch, and then learned that our supplier had gone out of business. We had already paid for three quarters of the kitchen (terms of installation), and we are now in a long drawn-out process with the administrators to see if we can get any reimbursement! Apart from that, we have had successful installation of replacement windows and replacement boiler.

The office, where Graham spends most of his day, especially when working from home,

Office

New furniture lines one wall of the office

Office

Office

Living room

Living room

Living room

Down the passageway into the living room

From the living room, looking up the passageway to the front door

Kitchen

Kitchen

Bathroom

Bathroom

Bathroom

Bedroom

Bedroom - the furniture is new, Dylys has had the bed since before we were married

Bedroom

Bedroom - showing the foot of the bed. We swapped the headboard and the baseboard to opposite ends, because the headboard will not fit with the furniture units.

Front door, looking into the apartment

Front door

Communal landing, looking down the stairs toward the front door

Looking from the communal door, up the stairs to the apartment

Communal door. Our car is to the right of the door, the apartment is first floor, above the car.

In the bedroom

Holidays

We moved home, feeling in need of a simpler life, and this year has proved to be hectic. So we are very grateful for two decent holidays. Soon after moving home, we took a week’s break in Wooler, Northumbria. We have been to that caravan site several times before, but not for a good few years. We like Northumbria – lots of wide open space, nice and relaxing, we had some good walks.

Then, for the first week in October, we were down in Cornwall. We were able to spend a day with Graham’s Dad and Val, and an afternoon/evening with his niece Amy. But we stayed at a caravan site on the edge of Looe, and enjoyed the coast walks.

Family events

We went to a wedding, in London. Graham’s brother Phil, and Lau, were married in Camden. It was a relatively small, family affair, so a good opportunity to catch up with family. We made a daytrip of the event, going down by train. Very conveniently for us, the train from Macclesfield goes to Euston, very close to the registry office! The ceremony was followed by photographs in Regents Park, and a meal at an Italian restaurant, all close by. 

We saw many of Dylys’ extended family at Aunty Rose’s 90^th birthday party – for which we had the community centre in Dilhorne, the village in Staffordshire where Dylys grew up. Aunty Rose was wearing a wig, which completely changed her appearance, and she thoroughly enjoyed the rather lavish event which was held in her honour.

Church

We really want to see our church grow: the membership is mostly elderly people, and it feels like all the work of the church is falling on just a handful of more active members. Our Children and Families worker started the “Bethel Bunnies” parent and toddler group, taking place on Monday afternoons, early this year. Dylys helps out with this work, and is on the rota to help out with Sunday School. Sadly, the Sunday School is not growing, and some weeks we have no children at all on a Sunday morning.

Last year, our church had a request from a local lady wanting to run a “Baby Library” from the church premises. We did not know what a “Baby Library” is, but we took her on, and quickly learned that it is a swap-shop for local families. It has turned out to be quite chaotic – the original understanding was that very little stock would be left in the building. A substantial number of people come into the building during the week, and the stock has grown and grown, so that our second hall looks more like a warehouse. The lady running the operation sees far more stock coming in than going out, she does not seem able to exercise control over it, and we are afraid that some “donors” are using the church building as a dumping ground for unwanted items. There is a huge volume of stock, it is very untidy and it is blocking access to vital resources. If the lady cannot get the stock level under control, the church will have to terminate the arrangement.

There has been a little intermingling of Baby Library volunteers and clients with the “Bethel Bunnies”, but despite the large number of people coming into the building during the week, we do not see them on a Sunday.

Graham and Dylys' news in 2022

A great loss

We had two funerals this year, the first been Dylys's uncle. We had not seen much of him for many years 

Graham: In 2019 Mum moved from her own home into a care home. Her Alzheimer’s had become more serious, and she was becoming progressively more disabled. She was in the care home for six months and then moved to a nursing home shortly before the first lockdown of the pandemic. She was two years in the nursing home before she died this year – on 26 April, the day before our wedding anniversary, which makes it easy to remember the date.

The funeral was in Solihull, where my sister Karen lives, and where the nursing home is located. We spent another day in Solihull, in which we took a little time clearing out the few items from Mum’s room in the nursing home. Then, in September, we had a family memorial day at Bradgate Park in Leicester, close to where Mum used to live, where we have had a memorial bronze oak leaf mounted, and where we scattered the ashes. 

Memorial leaf

It was a sad loss, Mum is much missed. Perhaps my fondest memory of her was when I was made redundant from my first job in 1992, in a great recession – I managed to sell my house quickly, and she told me, “You can come and live with me very cheaply, until you find a new job”. That took three months; I found a new job in Staffordshire and bought my next house in Stoke on Trent, where Dylys and I met.

Work

Graham: It has been mostly working from home this year, with odd days travelling to the office. As part of a small team, an intriguing experience this year was for a team interview of a candidate to join us – all remotely, an online event. The team agreed that Jack was a good candidate, he has now joined us, and we have had a few days together in the office.

Dylys: Besides spending two mornings a week doing voluntary work in the hospital, I was very pleased that “Open the Book” was able to restart the schools work that had come to an end with the pandemic – I am with them on Thursday mornings. I am usually doing some church cleaning each week, and I manage the rentals for our church.

Home

Graham: I don’t get much free time at home, although with working from home I spend most of my time in the house. I have managed to mow the lawns over the summer months, and to trim the bushes in the autumn (after the growing season); but I have not been able to treat the fences or the shed. Hence we are seriously thinking about moving to a “retirement” home.

We had opportunity to meet a representative from a McCarthy Stone retirement home development that is being built very close to where we live. On top of buying an apartment, it comes with a huge monthly service charge. We did manage to view an apartment for sale in a more established retirement development – interesting, but it was really too small for us. Now we are thinking more about apartments that are not specifically targeted at retired people, but we have not viewed any at the time of writing this letter.

Holidays

It turned out to be an expensive year. We booked two regular holidays: in May we spent a week in Wolsingham, County Durham, and we had a good time exploring the Wear Valley – new territory for us. We were able to spend an afternoon with one of Dylys's cousins, who lives in St John's Chapel. Then we spent the first week of October in Hayle (near St Ives, Cornwall). On the whole, the weather was good for each of these weeks, and we much appreciated them.

Lovely sunshine near Thornley, County Durham

Dylys on Porthkidney Beach near Hayle

Our church was going to have the first church weekend away for several years … in 2020. It was postponed twice due to the pandemic, and we finally went away to Cloverley Hall in June. After a couple of years of lockdowns (no church services) and cautious meeting together again in the church building (lots of Covid rules), the weekend away was a welcome opportunity to see the church fellowship properly.

Then my sister Karen announced that, as she was having a milestone birthday this year, she would like a family weekend away in Symonds Yat. She booked a large house, and four generations spent the weekend together (Dad and Val, down to great niece Rosie). We enjoyed good weather, good walks around the River Wye, and lots of food! So the two extra breaks made it a much more expensive year for what we would consider to be holiday expenditure.

Church

We have been meeting in the building on Sunday mornings throughout the year. Most Sundays, the two of us are sitting behind computers and the sound desk – Graham records the service, whilst Dylys manages the display of words whilst the congregation sings along with the worship group, and the playing of Youtube videos. We have put out appeals for somebody to help with the sound desk, but with no response as yet, so Graham has to manage this as well.

We have not tried to reinstate the Sunday evening meetings, perhaps because we still do not have a great attendance each Sunday morning. Graham also sets up two Zoom meetings each week: the Sunday afternoon prayer meeting, and the Wednesday evening cell group – we are disappointed that so few people attend these, but maybe with Graham spending so much of each day in front of a computer, the Zoom meetings feel a much more natural environment for him than they do for most people in the church. Our pastor runs a daytime Bible study during the week, in which we are not able to take part.

Graham and Dylys' news in 2021

Work

Graham: I have been in my regular day job, but working from home all year. I’m sure I will be back in the office one day, but for the time being it is easier for the software engineers to work from home than it is for most other staff at the business.

Dylys: I have been able to restart my voluntary work at the hospital. When I first resumed work after lockdown, I was restricted in what I was allowed to do: giving out masks as visitors came into the hospital, and filling up the mask stations. Since then I have been able to do an extra morning: two mornings a week in recent months. It was good to be able to go and do regular work again: my old job in Subject Access, and a new role, encouraging patients to check-in at the self service kiosk.

As “Open the Book” teams have not been able to go back into the schools, I have joined them in making some videos which we can send to the schools instead.

An accident

Graham: I used to cycle to work regularly before the pandemic, but whilst I am working from home, I like to get out for an early morning bike ride. I had a serious accident in June: although it was not raining, the roads were wet after rain overnight. I remember coming down a steep hill towards a sharp bend, but can recall nothing after that, although the cycling app on my phone showed that I spent 25 minutes at the scene of the accident, and it shows the route that I took home. Dylys took me to hospital, and after short term dressing in A&E, I went back a week or so later and had a plate fitted into my arm. In the follow-up consultations I have been told to be more careful on my bike. Despite having the accident in the summer, the winter feels the more risky time on the bike, and in recent weeks I have been trying a mix of walks/jogs in the local area when the weather is fit, and following video exercises in the house on other days.

Home

Graham: I have struggled to get jobs done at home: like repainting the passageway gate, and trimming hedges around the garden - in part this is due to the resumption of family visits after lockdown, which take up at least half of our Saturdays. But also, I have been needing more sleep - whether this is part of getting older, or a consequence of the cycling accident, I am not sure. I did get the gate painted, and half of the laurel hedge trimmed - the other half is outstanding at the time this newsletter was written.

To be honest, I could have made headway on these jobs on August bank holiday, which was a fine day; but we chose to go off for a day's walk from Tegg's Nose Country Park, including Lamaload Reservoir and Shining Tor. We appreciated the opportunity to get out for a summer's day together, particularly with our holidays this year being delayed to the autumn.

Reached some milestones

We “celebrated” our Silver wedding anniversary in April this year. Dad and Val very kindly sent us money for a meal out, but although restaurants were starting to open, we did not feel that the time was right, and we had a takeaway on our special day.

Graham: I hit a different milestone in May – my 60th birthday! We would have liked to mark the occasion better, and maybe we still will next year, but as for the wedding anniversary, we had a celebratory takeaway.

I took a couple of days off work in November, and we did go out to use our anniversary gift on the Thursday lunch time, anticipating that it would be a less busy time. The Legh Arms was a bit more busy than we were expecting, but we really enjoyed the meal.

Holidays

Normally we like to book our holidays at the start of the year, and select one week in May, and another week in the autumn. With the Covid situation the way it was at the beginning of the year, it felt wise to delay the holidays until the autumn.

We had an excellent week at Trearddur Bay (near Holyhead) in September – during the course of the break, we covered most of the perimeter of Holy Island on foot, and managed to include a short stretch on Anglesey.

Holyhead Mountain summit

Lovely weather on our walk to North Stack

In October we spent a night in Cornwall (around visiting family) before a second week’s break at Brixham in Devon. Brixham is on a peninsula, and we were pleased to cover the coast path around the peninsula.

Kingswear

Dylys: Not to be outdone by Graham’s cycling accident, I managed to take a fall coming down a steep bank in Kingswear on one of those walks from Brixham. I sat down hard and I can still feel it, but I did not come off as badly as Graham did earlier in the year.

Church

There were no meetings in the church building from New Year until the beginning of May. The two of us would watch the pastor's pre-prepared video message together, then spend an extended time in prayer, and then join a Zoom fellowship meeting.

We miss the Service @ Home routine - it was much less hectic, and seeing people face to face on Zoom feels safer than doing so in the building. We have an ongoing Zoom prayer meeting and Zoom cell meeting each week, but are disappointed at the low participation: clearly, most people prefer meeting in the building, and would rather take the time off for something else than meet on Zoom. We are not eager to return to late nights in the building or people's homes, once we are able to meet physically more regularly again.

Graham: It’s difficult to avoid being busy, as I am an Elder, and responsible for most of the IT tasks in the church, as well as for Data Protection.

Dylys: I stepped down from deacon’s duties this year, but I am still managing rental groups within the building, and regularly doing church cleaning activities.

Graham and Dylys' news in 2020

Home

It has been a very different year, thanks in part but not exclusively to Covid-19. Graham has been working from home for most of the time since mid-March, with just odd days in the office, and is really thankful to have had a stable job with no furlough. We have had more time at home with family visits having been seriously curtailed.

Early on in the year, before Covid took off, Dylys fainted in the bath, bashed her nose as she fell, and Graham came home from work to take her to A&E. She spent one night in hospital and then came home. The doctors suggest that an underactive thyroid may be the underlying cause of her fainting, but we are grateful for no reoccurrence.

In a strange year we have had two new garage doors! Early in the year, Graham had gone down to the West Midlands to visit his mother in the care home, and then spent time with his sister and family nearby. He drove home in the wind, tried to reverse the car into the garage, but did not notice that the wind had brought the garage door down 45 degrees. The rear windscreen was smashed, and the garage door broken. We got both fixed before the first lockdown happened.

Then in the autumn we went away for a holiday. We returned home, pulled onto the drive, and thought, “Hey, somebody has broken into our garage!” The door post was broken and the garage door was wedged inwards. But there was a note from a poor meter reader through the front door, explaining how his van had rolled off whilst he was reading a meter, and he found it up against our garage. It seemed to take weeks for his insurance claim to go through, but we had the door replaced at no cost to ourselves.

Holidays

At the start of the year we booked two holidays: one in Cornwall for the final week in March, in which we would be able to see family; and the other in Bellingham Northumbria in September. As March progressed, that first holiday looked increasingly uncertain. As we approached that week, the Government advised (but did not legislate) that we should avoid unnecessary travel. Two days before we were due to travel, we cancelled it. The lockdown was announced whilst we were due to have been away, so we would have been in an awkward position if we had travelled.

We were pleased that the week in September did go ahead. Northumbria was under tighter restrictions at the time, but we never expected to meet up with other people whilst we were away, and it was not a problem. Positioned on the River North Tyne running east-west, and on the Pennine Way running north-south, Bellingham is a strategic place for good local walking. On a couple of days we drove to Keilder Water, which we found to be pleasant, but it does not compare with the sheer beauty of the Lake District.

Having missed out on seeing family in March, we booked up a last minute holiday in October, staying in a caravan near Looe. The rules at the time were such that we could not meet people indoors, but we were able to see Dad and Val, and Amy (niece) and Rosie (great niece) outdoors. The weather was generally good, we did lots of walking, enjoyed plenty of treats, and had a really good week.

Family

For us, the more significant disruption this year were the restrictions on seeing family. In previous years we have been travelling on at least a couple of Saturdays each month, but it came to a halt with the first lockdown.

Graham’s mother moved to a care home in the West Midlands in the autumn of last year, and then from the care home to a nursing home early this year. All that we have been able to see of her since she moved to the nursing home is a few “window visits” during the summer (Graham sits outside the window of her ground floor room, she sits inside, with the window slightly open).

We managed one visit to Dylys’ family in the summer. When Uncle David died, attending the funeral was out of the question because numbers were very limited.

Church

Church has also been very different this year, as we have had to get used to Zoom, and delivering “Service @ Home” sheets to church people who are not online. Graham has been publishing the pastor’s video sermons on Youtube, and has added significantly to the web site during the course of the year.

We had been attempting to recruit a Children and Families Worker, which we initially put on hold when the first lockdown happened, but then decided to go ahead, and we conducted interviews using Zoom. Katherine was appointed and joined our church in October.

Work

Graham has been working from home for most of the time since mid-March. It works quite well, as modern technology makes it possible to access the business systems, talk with people, share the computer screen with people, with just the odd hold-up because the network connection is slower from home than it is in the office.

Dylys was going into schools with “Open the Book”, but that came to a halt early this year. She has been helping out at the hospital most weeks, but has not been allowed to do the office job there since the first lockdown – instead she is situated near the entrance, directing people to the masks. When she is not doing voluntary work, she has to put up with somebody else in the house who would normally be in the office for a large part of the day!

Graham and Dylys' news in 2019

Home

What a wet latter half of the year! Last year we became aware of an overflow from blocked guttering at the back of the house, and paid for a builder to clear the guttering.

So in all that wet weather this year, it was obvious that the problem was back again. The builder’s recommendation had been to get the roof professionally cleaned, but that is hard to stomach in a semi-detached house where the guttering on the rear collects rain and debris from both houses and the overflow was on our side. We explored various options, but felt that the simplest solution was to invest in a ladder so that Graham could climb up and clear the blockage on an as-needed basis. There is an angle-bend at the top of the downspout assembly, which is easy to take apart once it can be accessed – it is the short vertical section above the angle bend which is prone to getting blocked.

Holidays

Cnicht - near Porthmadog

We managed two holidays this year: Combe Martin in Devon in the spring, and Porthmadog in North Wales in the autumn. The south westerly direction for the spring holiday gave us opportunity to meet up with family in Cornwall before we settled into the holiday accommodation.

We are delighted to have now had five holidays in succession with near perfect weather (the odd shower on one day for some of the holidays, but no days written off due to rain) – a remarkable achievement for holidaying in the UK!

Mum moves into a care home

We are so grateful to Graham’s sisters who took on the bulk of the hard work and made some difficult decisions. Mum was becoming less and less able to look after herself. Karen was having to arrange for various people to make additional visits to Mum’s home. There were awkward phone calls. One evening, when we were about to go to a church meeting (which Graham was due to lead) we had to make an emergency trip to Leicester instead, spend the night with Mum, and Graham had to request the time off work the following day.

Of course Mum did not want to go into a care home. The first few weeks were very difficult, but thankfully she has settled down. For us, the journey to the care home takes a good couple of hours, and we are seeing her every few weeks.

Church

We continue to be active members at Bethel Baptist Church, and we really want to see the church grow now, as it is getting more difficult for a small fellowship to keep up with all the practical duties. The church advertised for a children’s worker to join us this year, but did not get a response, and we plan to try again next year.

Work

Graham has been working for Waters Corporation in Wilmslow for the past five years. He is pleased to be able to cycle to work regularly when the weather is expected to be fine (and apart from a break over the winter). He managed a longer season this year, and goes swimming once a week outside of the cycling season.

Dylys does various voluntary jobs, with a few changes this year. Her favourite job is as part of the “Open the Book” team, visiting various schools on Thursday mornings to take assemblies. She is encouraged when she meets children on the street and they excitedly ask, “You are the Open the Book lady, aren’t you?”. Besides “Open the Book”, she expects to be doing some extra work in our local hospital over the coming months.

Graham and Dylys' news in 2018

A hard few months

Dylys’ Mum had been seriously unwell since the summer of 2017. In the early months of this year, Dylys was making daily trips to see her in hospital in Stoke on Trent, or at home in Cheadle. The Lord called Mum home in April. Dylys also lost a niece and the niece’s husband in tragic circumstances just before Mum passed away – several funerals in April.

A shiny new toy

We kept our old Hyundai Getz for ten years. Over the years, the battery had let us down on a couple of occasions during the lifetime of the car – we found it flat and had to call the rescue service. Air conditioning feels like a con – in the UK there are so few occasions when we really benefit from it, but it seems to need servicing on an annual basis if it is going to work at all, and it just does not justify the cost. But overall, the car had served us very well.

Servicing was getting expensive in recent years – always something requiring replacement, and it usually came to light shortly after the annual service. In the autumn of this year  we knew that another bill in the order of £500 was likely, so we changed the car. We now have a bright red Hyundai i20. The Getz served us well; it felt quite basic but was perfectly adequate. The i20 has all manner of gadgetry, and we have to wonder whether it will all last as long as the old car did.

Health and exercise

Last year, it was Dylys who tripped on our stairs and struggled to get around for a few weeks. This year something happened to Graham’s knee. The symptoms varied quite a bit over the course of the year, sometimes making it difficult to walk, sometimes difficult to get up or down stairs, and for a few days, difficult to operate the clutch in the car. Fortunately, it had little effect on Graham’s cycling. After the symptoms had persisted six months, he requested that the GP arrange an x-ray. When the results were in, the GP advised that there was no serious damage and recommended a course of physiotherapy. The symptoms then subsided before the course started, but Graham went through with three sessions and is trying to keep up with the prescribed exercises.

Graham was really grateful that the knee problem had not affected his cycling unduly, as this is his preferred exercise. He managed to cycle to work on 123 occasions this year, compared with 98 times last year, and he thinks that he has cycled a greater total number of miles this year than on any previous year.

Holidays

Much of the country enjoyed a long, warm, dry summer this year. Consequently we had two excellent holidays. We enjoyed new scenery around Hawes in the Yorkshire Dales in May. Then we stayed near St Ives in Cornwall in September, the Cornish location motivated in part so that we could see Graham’s family, including a new great niece Rosie.

Church

Dylys looks after the communion and manages the rentals at our church. Graham has been an Elder for several years, but our constitution defines a maximum term of office, meaning that he was obliged to take a very welcome break, starting from the AGM in May.

Work

Not much change from last year. Dylys is officially retired, and does voluntary work for “Open the Book” (Bible stories in schools), the Hope Centre (Christian coffee shop), the Hospice shop, and for the Macclesfield hospital. Graham continues as a Software Engineer with Waters Corporation in Wilmslow.